We all get this one opportunity to live our very best life. When we don’t grow, love, take care of ourselves, and live to our potential, we are squandering this one amazing opportunity we’ve been granted. Comfort, fear, and scarcity rob us of what’s possible unless we consciously choose otherwise. I bring this to you today because what humans on their deathbed know is that REGRET is the most damaging thing.
What I’m about to share with you are two very harmless words except when they’re used together. These words are… “Yeah, but…” Let me explain with an example. Person #1: “You know there’s never a perfect time to start exercising.” Person #2: “Yeah, but things are just extra crazy right now with the holidays coming.” You see, the phrase “yeah, but” does two things.
Positive thinking is our default when we want to improve an area of our lives. We journal, recite affirmations, and work to build our positive thoughts. However, positive thinking implies that we accept our own thoughts as truth. You can attach a particular meaning to anything but that doesn’t mean it’s real. We have to also acknowledge that things only have meaning because we give them meaning. For example, just because you’ve fallen off the wagon in your fitness and nutrition dozens of times doesn’t mean that you’re incapable of success. But that’s the meaning most people give it.
Today I’m coming at you with some practical info that you can implement right away for better health. So, without further ado, here are my 7 rules for healthy eating: 1. Drink water! Half of your body weight in ounces per day is your goal! I also suggest drinking a full glass of water prior to each meal to prevent over-eating in addition to drinking a glass as soon as you wake up. 2. Focus on eating mostly proteins, vegetables, good fats, some fruit, and just good-quality starches (like potatoes of any kind/whole grains). Keep sugar to a minimum!
As you’re probably aware, most people jump on and off of the fitness wagon many times throughout their lives. If I told you that committing to ONE thing could change all of that yo-yo-ing, would you do it? If you want to have a body that takes care of you and that you love for life, you need to do this one thing. And that is aim for A COMMITTED YEAR.
With so many diets making headlines, I wanted to highlight the new anti-diet approach to you called Intuitive Eating. Intuitive eating practices are the result of the absolute exhaustion people feel when they are or have been chronic dieters. Counting calories, weighing and measuring food, and feeling guilt or pride around food choices will take a lot out of you! And that’s just one reason that most dieters fail (and gain even more weight). The principle of intuitive eating is to essentially reject diet mentality. To no longer identify foods as good or bad. And to never go hungry, leading to feelings of deprivation and binging cycles.
I’m not naming names here, but one popular approach to fitness that makes me absolutely CRAZY is what I’d refer to as a fitness factory – a gym or studio setting where dozens of people are packed in to one class with no individualization to their training. I take issue with the fact that these people simply get signed up into a program without any discussion with a highly-qualified coach as to what their goals are, what their history is, and without a true understanding of this individual. It’s kind of like whoever can pay is in simply because they can pay.
Having been in the fitness industry for many years now, I’ve seen a lot of success stories but I’ve also seen a lot of people fall short of what they’re capable of and give up on themselves. I think this comes down to one key difference around our mindset in the actions we take. Let me explain… When you have an experience like trying on clothes or another trigger event that makes you declare that you’re going to get in shape, it’s very easy to feel determined and motivated in that moment. You make the plan – “Monday, I’m making it happen!” or “Once the kids go back to school, it’s all about getting healthy!” or “I’m going to start making better choices as soon as I get back from vacation.”
Read any book out there on what it takes to be successful in any area of your life, and the majority will tell you that it’s your thoughts and your mindset that determine success or failure. Your inner world (your thoughts and beliefs) will determine your outer world (what’s actually happening in reality). If you fully believe that you’re capable of change, committing to the process, and of creating the body of your dreams, you’ll do it. But if any part of you inside is saying “yeah, but probably not for x, y, and z reasons,” you won’t do it.
Have you ever experienced a time in life where you let someone’s opinion of you change your thoughts, feelings, or behavior? Have you ever made choices that weren’t aligned with your desires but you did it anyway to keep someone else happy? Have you ever let what someone said about you alter your reality or make you question yourself? These are experiences that most people go through many times throughout life. My goal today is to bring your awareness to what might be happening so you can choose something different. You see, when you allow the words or expectations of others to impact your life in a way that makes you less happy, you are giving up your power.